Are you stressed out ? It’s no wonder if you are falling under this stress bucket. 7 out of every 10 people are facing this issue, figures are really alarming. Is this the advancement that we are dreaming for ??
Current generation folks are most effected. Everyone is in a perfect trap which they can never come out until & unless if they are an outlier.
Everyone is searching for some stress management techniques which can relieve them but let us pause for a while & understand where the stress is coming from first. Let’s do our root cause analysis.
There might be ton of medical & technical reasons around the web regarding the root cause of stress, but what I opine is, stress comes from…
- Doing the work which you aren’t excited
- Being in a relationship where you are never valued
- Fear of losing what you currently have
- Fear of not reaching the ideal future you constantly aiming for (Fear of not catching the perfect parachute of ideal future which they are constantly dreaming for)
List isn’t exhaustive but every other reason might be falling under these four umbrella’s. No medicine in the world can solve the above. Let’s see how we can tackle
1. Doing the work which you aren’t excited
Do you know ? Most of the human beings spend 90,000 hours of their life at work. It’s more than 1/3rd of their life. If you follow Narayana Murthy & work 72 hours/week, this figure might shoot up even higher, Lol !! If money is the only motivation for you to work, you will start hating your job at some point in your professional ladder. People will be in the constant urge of building retirement corpus or finding novel retirement strategies like FIRE, because they want to leave the work so badly that they want to leave that ASAP.
Either fight for the work which you are dreaming to do or accept the situation completely without complaining. If you are in constant search of weekends, you will always wait for that right time to cheer up. Life doesn’t work like that. So, you cannot complain forever. Keep your expectations straight, know for what you are working for, trade with your time, do the math & move on accordingly.
2. Being in a relationship where you are never valued
If you are constantly being under valued in a relationship or being underpaid in terms of love, care or relationship, you will be stressed at one phase questioning yourself. Some people might have ton of love but they don’t know how to express. Some people may not have time, they are in the constant worry of satisfying the boss & life partner. Finding the right balance is not an herculean task.
Trust is the biggest fundamental block of your relationship, once it is lost, it becomes irreparable. No one can fix it until miracles happen.
No one is perfect in this world. Understand each other’s imperfections & change your rapport. Communication is the key. Understanding the situations will solve half of the problems. Good people will pay a far higher price for being good, than bad people will pay for being bad. This quote suits very well in the relationship standpoint. If you feel the sacrifice is worth, stay in it, other-wise take a call, sit together for a while before executing next move.
3. Fear of losing what you currently have
It may be the fear of losing the beloved person’s care OR it may be the wealth that you have created OR it may be the fame that you have earned. Redefine your goals in your life if something goes wrong. Many people aren’t trained for handling failures. We are creating a generation of success psychopaths who can’t even see themselves failing even in their dreams. This will stir a lot of problems once you open Pandora’s box.
Be positive but have a plan B when failure knocks you. Practice detachment, at some point of time, that will be the only engine which can liberate you from all the shackles. Change your lens, broaden your vision & believe that rejections will make you richer. Nothing in this world can instill fear within you.
4. Fear of not reaching the ideal future you constantly aiming for
People always draw some structures in their ideal future, once they see their path is deviating, they will burn out. People are postponing the present happiness in order to build their ideal future. There are no warranties & guarantees in life & stock market, be practical, take a balanced call. If you are not sure where you are going & if you are not sure why you are going, you are just an another hijacked creature on this planet.
Why everyone is so much obsessed about the destination (Ideal future), no one is worried about the process (present).. The future is merely a function of time and the present. Enjoy the present, build the future where you never wanna retire or reach destination itself.
Understand the reason behind your stress, stop over thinking & start acting. Don’t punish your brain, just try to engage it by assigning some work. It’s just a think tank. Don’t over engineer or under engineer your plans & make it complex.
Maintain a side hustle outside of your main job and cultivate friendships beyond the workplace—this balance will help in solving many of life’s challenges.
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